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11/15/08

HOMESCHOOL MOMS NIGHT OUT...need I say more? Okay, I will...

As you can imagine, mothers who homeschool their children have a tendency to get burn-out. Yes, we have chosen to teach our children at home and we are committed to that right, but as with any commitment that demands hours and hours of service, there comes a time when a 15 minute break is needed.

Moms who stay home with their children and drive them to and from co-ops, field trips, classes, sports, cub scouts and such...develop nerves of steel. Those nerves can be trampled on, screamed at, puked on, covered with viral diarrhea and we just keep on keeping on, conjugating verbs and scouring the counters day after day. Then, the time comes when that nerves decides it has had enough. The former stoic mother looks around her home, smiles ever so maniacally at her brood and walks out the door...to Mom's Night Out or MNO as the locals call it.

Homeschool moms are unlike any other group of mothers you will ever find. Starbucks workers and Tim Hortons employees alike will attest to the fact that these women are not your usual night on the town type women. Homeschool moms come to MNO without make-up, or with...with sputum on their shirt or not. The attire is left to each individual to choose as she sees fit. MNO is a community of women who accept the mom where she is at that moment. Should she need to dress up and feel awesome that night..she is welcome to do so and we will oooh and ahhh for her sake. Should the mom need to run out of the house, unwashed, unshaven and under the weather, we take her, hug her and tell her she looks tired and beautiful all in the same breath.

Homeschooling moms accept the rants of psychotic gibberish that sometimes erupt during a sip of coffee. We listen as past memories of lighter days collide with the reality of an unexpected pregnancy, a teen driver and a child who cannot grasp the concept of reading. Somehow, we just accept the real woman inside. We reject the fake, superficial facade and energize our maternal, homeschooling battery each and every Mom's Night Out. We look around at real women who have real problems and real joys. We see and are reminded ever so wonderfully that we are indeed normal. We are indeed beautiful and we are just that strong. We are as strong as every woman at that meeting and just as vulnerable.

Yes, our evening of coffee is a need. It is a mental charge, emotional roller coaster and a bond that is not easily explained in one blog post. If you are not living a homeschooling lifestyle it will be hard to understand what MNO means to a homeschooling mother and if your MNO's are not like this, I pray God will send you the women who make up our group. Its numbers ebb and flow but the spirit is the same. We enjoy our sisters and refuse to think of a day when MNO will cease to exist.

Last night, was the best MNO I have ever experienced. Last night, a fellow homeschool mom confided in me that she was "late." As I got up from the table to leave, all the other moms were concerned. I'm the first to arrive and the last to leave so my exit created a stir to say the least. I drove away, and came back. I arrived with 4 pregnancy tests. I handed one to our friend...a mother of 5...ages 6,5,4,3,& almost 2...(I think) All the moms smiled. She walked into the bathroom of Tim Hortons and came out holding a positive test. Yes, number 6 is on the way. That night there were 3 tests taken. One positive, two very joyfully negative. The laughter, love and contentment of no judgement filled the room. We accept our sisters where they are and rejoice that we all get to live the life we wish to live.

To my sisters, I say, Thank you for making my life that much easier. Thank you for allowing me to go from subject to subject without ever finishing a thought. Thank you for loving me anyway. I am so very blessed to have you all in my life... And Heather! Congratulations!

10 comments:

Beth (A Mom's Life) said...

Sounds like an exciting MNO! I give all of you homeschooling moms big props! You definitely deserve a night out!

Jennifer said...

Very well put, Shel. Best MNO yet!!
These women are the best!!

Roxiticus Desperate Housewives said...

Shelly,

Looks and sounds like a good time was had by all!

Long time no chat, but I stopped by to honor your blog with the Uber Amazing Blog Award...please slip into a little black dress and join me at Roxiticus Desperate Housewives for the gala awards ceremony.

Congratulations!
Roxy

That lady with 6 daughters said...

Awww, I love our mom's nights, too. Congratulations, Heather. Homeschoolers who don't have a mom's night out are definitely missing out.

Jen V. - Thinking Out Loud said...

Shelly!!! That was awesome!! You summed up the evening quite nicely. Thanks for being who you are. I really, really enjoy the fellowship and my evenings with all of you. It is definitely worth the hour-long trip to get there!

Congratulations again Heather! :-)

Jen V. (Imlay City)

Deanna said...

Darn! If only I were closer! ;)
Cause lately I've had plenty of spitup on my clothes, very little OUT time, and it seems my notion of getting dressed up is to simply get dressed! NO positive pregnancy tests! But Congratulations, Heather!

Heather, mom of 5 and expecting #6 said...

That was a great post, and MNO was summed up very well. I always have a great time. Though this past Friday was the BEST, since I was the one who had the positive pregnancy test.

I still can't believe it. It was so great to share my news with all of you because I am going to be waiting to share the news with my family. Not everyone understands the joy of having and wanting a large family, and it is such a blessing to be with women who understand and encourage it, now please excuse me I think I'm going to throw up now.

The Mom With Brownies said...

Heather,

It was so exciting. Thank you for allowing us to share in your revelation. Your face was a hoot! You were shocked, excited, amazed and thrilled all in one expression. I think Jen F. was terrified to take the test! ROFL I'm so happy everyone got their prayer that evening.

Still smiling,
Shelly

Heather, mom of 5 and expecting #6 said...

I noticed Becky and Jen F. were very nervous. Could you imagine what it would have been like if all three of us had positive tests? We'd have to have MNO advertised like this...

Join us for MNO, come as you are, BYOPT (bring your own pregnancy test).

Stacy said...

Thee best time in a long time for me! You said it so well in this post Shelly! Laughter is the best stress buster!!